Hindsight is a wonderful thing isn’t it? I’ve had my fair share of experiences. Knowing when I was in the right job was one of my biggest challenges. So much of my work is now steeped in self awareness and self reflection. I have decided to share solutions to common challenges in the workplace.
How to know if you’re in the right job
I’ve had a few jobs. Job-hopped some years, freelanced others and after two years of being in the same place, I got itchy feet. It was time to leave. The work wasn’t fulfilling me and I hated going in.
The first sign for me when I was done with a job was when I wouldn’t want to wake up and get there on time. I didn’t know this then, but I do now. There was conflict in nearly every workplace. Mine was steeped in passion for what I was doing. The drive to win at my goals in the job and a sense of purpose for my career. Others however didn’t like this and created opportunities whenever they could to cause conflict.
At the time, I was devastated. I thought I was such an awful person. Why couldn’t I avoid conflict happening to me? Did they betray my trust? Why did they bully me to leave?
Only hindsight lets you see the errors of your ways and theirs. I now know so much more about myself that I can reflect on this time compassionately. Nobody helped me. I had no idea how to ‘play the game’ and I had no idea that my passions would be killed due to bloody jealousy! Needless to say in my 20 year Marketing career, my favourite job was a side hustle I did for 2 years at a sex shop in Soho.
A traditional view of work
Many of us go into the workplace because it’s the natural progression from studying. We may have done some work experience when we were 15 and then again at Uni. But after that, we enter the world of work and just get sucked into the cycle of work hard, earn more, spend and repeat until we die.
What we don’t get to do unfortunately, is realistically experience the workplace and all that it brings. We assume this is it, this is the workplace, this is what I’ll be doing for the next 60-odd years of my life! Ugh, that’s miserable.
Discovering the right job
When we’re at work, we are either in a job that completely fulfils us, there are rainbows in the sky and we have everything we need. Or, there are the rest of us who work in a job that slightly relates to what we might have studied. It may relate to passions and hopefully pays us enough to get the things we want. I’m going to talk about us.
After years of being in a particular role or company, we start getting itchy feet. Something’s not quite right but it’s difficult to put our finger on it. We can’t just take a hiatus because we’ve committed to a mortgage/car payments etc and so just go and apply for another job, doing the same thing, in another company for a little more money, hoping that we’ll find the answer. And this continues usually until we either have an epiphany or burnout.
How to reflect about your current role
The first place I would start is, do you like to wake up in the morning and actually go to the job?
- Do you look forward to what you’ll be working on, seeing your colleagues and feel like your work is making an impact somewhere somehow?
- Does your job fulfil your expectations of working in the field you do?
- How often are you able to disconnect from work without feeling guilty and just enjoy the joys of life?
- Do you face conflict often at work? This may be innocent conflict where you’re so passionate about what you do that you’re threatening to others.
- Are their communication issues that makes your boss regularly call you into their office to tell you to play more nicely with the other kids?
- Do you experience the same challenges no matter how many times you change workplaces?
If there are a lot of yes’s to those questions, you need to take a long hard look at yourself and determine what the actual f*** is going on with you? Something has happened along your journey of life that is affecting the way you work and it’s time to put that mirror up, dig deep and find out what.
Knowing if you’re in the right job
Here are some closed questions you could ask yourself to start the process. When you get a ‘No’, that’s what you need to start reflecting on.
- Does my work stimulate me?
- Am I am proud of what I do for a living?
- Do I feel appreciated in my workplace?
- I am happy with my salary/bonuses?
- Do I have clear short-and long-term work goals?
- Will I acknowledge others every day?
- Is there a good working relationship with others?
- Am I communicating clearly at work?
- Do I feel confident in my dealings with others in the workplace?
- Am I able to collaborative effectively ?
This is not an easy exercise to do but if you really want things to change, it’s time to start asking yourself some challenging questions. Because that’s where the answers truly lie.
Once you know what you want from your work/job, you’ll know what to look for in a job ad. And you’ll know what to ask in your interview.
Remember also that a job interview is a sales process for both parties. The employer wants to come across attractive to you just as much as you do. Know that the probationary period is for both of you to assess if you’ve got the right job for you.
Puja K McClymont | Certified Life Coach in London and NLP Practitioner
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